Tuesday, April 12, 2011

What you do speaks volumes

In everything we do, we are saying something to our children.

In everything we do, we speak not only to our children, but also to the children in our world.

When did our value become so attached to our appearance? The value of who we are, needs to go deeper than our skin.

I have been thinking a lot lately with the American style beauty pageants coming to Australia. I do not want to this post to be about what is right or what is wrong. What I do hope, is that you take a moment to think about at how you communicate with children.

These thoughts come purely from my own up bring and my life – which may be completely different to yours. For many years, I had eating disorders and self esteem issues. I hope my children never have those issues.

Our beauty is from within
Our beauty is not just skin
We hear words spoken
From an age too young
We are influenced
But not often encouraged
We are told to fix it
To be accepted
Yet we are perfect
The way we’re created

Our body is a vessel
To move us through this life
Our features are not faults
One of a kind – unique
Our heart can be filled
Our heart can be shattered
What you do speaks volumes
What you say may be heard

How can a toddler understand?
That value is not determined
By the curl of their hair
By the lash on her eye
Their value is deeper
Creation at its purest
Their perfection resonates

Idealistic pretty is short
Youth lived is a season
Genuine beauty is forever
Compassionate hearts shine
A generous life is expansive
Humanity is calling us

Do we teach our children?
Do we show our children?
Do we guide our children?
Do we push our children?

A pageant is harmless
If the heart is guarded
If the value is secure
If the beauty is deeper
Than the skin that is seen

To run free
To be shining
And bright
To feel alive
To live each
Moment with joy
To find peace
To know that who they are
Is who they were meant to be

Our children
More than ever
Need value placed
Deeper than the skin
As deep as we can get
Our value lies in our heart
The person we were created to be


  1. Absolutely beautiful Michelle. In the true sense of the word.

  2. Beautiful, and that's more than skin deep.

  3. Beautiful poem, and what an important reminder. Thank you.

  4. So much stems from the heart ... The most sincere beauty, especially.

  5. Lovely Michelle. I absolutely agree. We have six boys and one girl. I am trying to teach her that very thing. She's 13 and it is hard to be a teenager. We homeschool, but it is still hard. Trying to figure out who you are. YIKES! I never want to go through that again. And I want her to know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

  6. Definitely. Today's world is overly focused on outer beauty. It's admittedly appealing, but sets up false and realistic expectations. I have a novel out with an agent that is addressing some of these issues. :) Happy Tuesday, Michelle!

  7. That is lovely. I think there will always be a large group of people who no matter what they say see beauty as skin deep and a smaller collective who understand that a person is so much more than that and that a pretty face is nothing on a mind bent on cruelty...
    But it is a hard line to walk. A VERY hard line. I guess what I struggle with is that with me how I look and how thin I am has nothing to do with being beautiful but more to do with being safe or okay or doing well enough. I think if you have a strong enough personality you can accept that you might not be classically beautiful but unfortunately the same snares of body issues and eating problems are still there. The whole pretty= thin thing just isn't the only cause.
    GAH. blather over - sorry - love this blog, is very well written and yes agree with you.

  8. Beautiful! Children are sponges and pick up so much from us.

  9. YEs! Our babies pick up everything from us. Especially all the things we don't want them to! Makes it even more important to be mindful of what we say and what we do not say.

    Beautiful blog post.

  10. Beautiful, and so important, thank you.

  11. This is awesome...beautifully said. xx

  12. Wow, that was amazing. I also think we teach our children how to be kind by being kind to others. Our children are watching us, no doubt.

  13. So true, and so beautifully expressed!


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